The best of friends see a need and try to fill it.When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it.Without being asked, they pitch in and helpLean on me, when you're not strong,and I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on,for it won't be long,'til I'm going to need somebody to lean onLet Me Help..
Some of your friends may be non conformists.They may have unique projects and unusual hobbies.Remember..Everyone has dreams..that might differs from all othersAnd when despair sets in and their inner fire goes out..Be there to help rekindle the spiritThus support them in pursuing their interests..Rather than urging your loved ones to conform..It'd be better to encourage their uniqueness..I would not be the stone that stand in your path..But will be the wind that whispers in your ear..Go For It, Dear Friend, Go For It!
..The flight was well under way when I wake up and saw my seatmate watching me. I introduced myself and asks him all the normal questions that people asks kids: age, school, name and lastly if his parents are on board the plane.
Suddenly, his big blue eyes were locked on mine and his expression grew strangely stiff. Then I realized that he was trying to control his face muscles. The harder he tried to hold his chin up, the harder it quivered.
"What's wrong?", I asked. By then tears were no longer secret between us. His watery gaze unbroken, he answered my question with the rawest and most naked statement that I have ever heard 'I want my Mommy!"
The boy had said goodbye to his mother at the airport and was en route to his father who had custody of him. "I miss her so much" he quaked as he sobs. "She cried too" he said as though to justify the outpouring emotion. This explained the boy's late entry on the plane.
"This is ridiculous. I can't cry the whole trip", he said interrupting his sobs. He then told me how his mom and him had took a taxi, stayed up late, seen a movie, went to the best toy store in town and used all the money that his father had given her.
Putting on a brave face, he tried to talk of other things..but he kept coming back to the realization that the plane was carrying him farther and farther from his mom. "I just wish she was here" he kept saying. "But I can't go on crying like this", he said wiping his tears on the already wet sleeves of his sweater.
Clumsily I tried to offer him the few truths that I have learned in turbulent times: life can be really hard but you'll always feel better after you felt bad. But I didn't know how to tell him that there are no ready remedies for the sorrows of goodbyes. This child was one of the many who travel solo from one home to another, the lost luggage of parents who couldn't stand each other and now have to divide their children between them. Perhaps it's not fair of me to question the domestic arrangements of others. Yet, as I listened to the story coming from this little child, I couldn't help but wonder if the parents would have tried harder if they had seen this pain.....
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Cat feels just like the child..oo.I do miss him so much..i do..
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed
if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness..
All of us have faults, foibles and failures.
A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong,
which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
Remember..
Anger makes you smaller..
while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.
It really doesn't matter if the person who hurt you deserves to be forgiven.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You have things to do and you want to move on.
Please Forgive Me..
The car you drive was designed and built because someone had a dream..
The highway on which you travel is there because someone had a dream..
The telephone you talk on and the worldwide network to which it is connected,
was constructed because someone had a dream..
Achievement begins with a dream..
Yet..
There are many, many dreams which whither and die without ever coming to pass..
We will never know the benefits which they could have brought..
Great accomplishments come about not only because someone dreamed of them..
But..
Also because someone believed in the dream enough..
To walk the long, hard road of making that dream a reality..
It takes a dream..
And then it takes more than a dream..
What is yours?
What are you doing about it?
Stop and think for a moment about all the great things that have been achieved..
Someone had a dream..
Someone just like you..
The world is filled with possibilities today..
Take your pick
And make it happen
I believe in you.
In life, there will always be a time when we disagree on something..
It might be a little error.. It might be a huge mistake..
Each side will try to defend what they believe is right
Remember..
To take a deep breath
To think and try to see the other side's point of view
Maybe You are Right..
is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions.
The flip side of "maybe you're right"
is the humility of admitting that "maybe I'm wrong."...
People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness.
The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention
Thank you for being my friend..
Thank you for thinking about me..
Thank you for caring about me..
Thank you for everything you did for me..
You shouldn’t have done it..
But I’m so glad you did
Thank You...
Don't spend most of your time on the voices that don't count,
voices that are going too add little worth to your future.
Don't waste time on the shallow and the silly.
Tune those voices out
and tune in the voices
that are going to add something to your life.
-Jim Rohn-
Some friends have the ability to lift you up till you touch the sky..
Others only bring you down into the mud..and then laugh at your condition..
Know choose your friends wisely..
I miss you..Perhaps more relationship could be salvaged and strengthened, if people could simply and sincerely said to each other, "I miss you"..whenever they miss someone..Trying to act tough or cool would only give the impression that you did not even notice the person is not around..On the other side, the 3 words above is telling that someone that he/she is wanted.., needed..., desired... and loved.
I miss you..I miss you..Yes.. I do miss you.. a lot. :)
People become closer and enjoy each other more..
if they feel the other person accepts and understands them.
Listen... to what the person is saying and not saying..
Do not cut in, make fun or scold the person when he/she is telling you of their hopes and dreams..
It might sound silly or foolish to you.. whereas it's a serious thing to that person..
Letting others know in so many little ways that you understand him or her is one of the most powerful tools in a relationship.
Friendship has opened a link between two hearts..
And time has given me the chance to get closer to you..
Do believe me when I say..
I understand you, I really do..
I had imagined that our 25th wedding anniversary gala to have a large white tent decorated with flowers and with a six piece orchestra playing a romantic song. Several hundreds of guests would be mixing around. My husband and I would be exchanging diamond studded matching bracelets. He would romantically feed me a piece of the anniversary cake and then we would sway on the dance floor to the music of 'Our Love is Here to Stay'.
The reality was here we are two 47 years old adults sitting together in the backyard with party hats strapped under our chins.
25 years. There had been a time where we would have gotten a standing ovation for being married that long. Now, kids look at you as if you are a prehistoric animal.
When I read the newspaper, I found myself searching to the anniversary section, looking for people who had survived 50 to 60 years of marriage. I knew that it would be a matter of time before anyone would be able to tell us apart. Already, our ideas, our stories and our attitudes have blended to such a degree where we barely knew where one began and the other left off. Whenever he told a joke, I knew the exact moment he was going to say 'Help me with the punch line, honey'.
He was still late all the time and still left handed. He was with his cronies less, but had replaced them with other distractions such as jogging and fishing. I had cut his hair and turned 33488 pieces of his underwear right side out. He had washed my feet when I was pregnant and couldn't see them. He had also put his car seat back to it's original position 18675 times after I used the car.
We had shared toothpaste, debts, closets and relatives. We had given each other honesty and trust.
He came over to where I was seated and said, 'I got a present for you. Close your eyes.' When I opened my eyes, he was holding a cauliflower that comes packed in a pickle jar.
'I hid it from the kids'. he said, 'because I know how much you like the cauliflower.' Maybe love is as simple as this.
There was once a man who lived in a house with the back facing a golf course.
Friends asked him why there were no windows at the back of the house.
For security, he said.
Then, he explained : How many times do you actually sit on the balcony at the back of the house and watch the greens, the monkeys and the birds.
The question hit the nail on the head.
How many times? Hardly ever. So, we blocked out the beauty that God has given us because we have no time. We are always doing things on the run. And even when we lie on the bed , the hundreds of things that we think are important to us runs in our head.
It is when you have no time left and when you are sick or dying that you wonder : Why did I not slow down...
The lucky ones are those who learn to dance slow and take time to watch kids playing on the swings, and listen to the sound of rain falling on the ground. They would never want to be filled with hate, bitterness and ill will ever, more so when they reach the age of 59, 60, 65, 70 or 80..
If you have 100 things to do, do one.Now you only have 99 things left to do.Don’t try to do it all. Not all of it matters anyhow.What is important to you? Do it. There’s nothing to it but to do it.Yesterday is a canceled check.Tomorrow is a promissory note.Today is cash in the bank.Time is life.Don’t waste it. No one has a lease on life.The greatest gift you can give someone else is your own happiness..Life is becoming who you are.Life isn’t about what you get … it’s about what you give.Give others the best you’ve got.
Lawrence Woodruff: You know why I like to teach children, Jack? So I don't get so wrapped up in being an adult. So I can remember there are other things that are important in life - like riding a bike, playing in a tree house, splashing in water with your good shoes on. And you, my friend, were my most special student. And until recently, you were everything I ever wanted in a student. You were a shooting star amongst ordinary stars. Have you ever seen a shooting star, Jack?
Jack: No...
Lawrence Woodruff: It's wonderful. It passes quickly, but while it's here it just lights up the whole sky - it's the most beautiful thing you'd ever want to see. So beautiful that the other stars stop and watch. You almost never see one.
Jack: Why not?
Lawrence Woodruff: Because they're very rare. Quite rare. But I saw one. I did.
Jack: I just... want to be a regular star.
Lawrence Woodruff: Jack, you'll never be regular. You're spectacular.
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C: I just want to be a regular star too...
One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books.
I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday?
He must really be a nerd.' I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.
As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt.
His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about ten feet from him
He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes . My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.
As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks. ' They really should get lives. ' He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!' There was a big smile on his face.
It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.
As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before.
He said he had gone to private school before now. I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books. He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a little football with my friends and He said yes.
We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him. Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books again. I stopped him and said, 'Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!
He just laughed and handed me half the books. ver the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were seniors we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never be a problem. He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship.
Kyle was valedictorian of our class. I teased him all the time about being a nerd.
He had to prepare a speech for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak. Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.
Boy, sometimes I was jealous!
Today was one of those days.
I could see that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!' He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. 'Thanks,' he said.
As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began 'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends.. I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a story.'
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the story of the first day we met. He had planned to kill himself over the weekend. He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile. 'Thankfully, I was saved. My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.' I heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.
I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile. Not until that moment did I realize it's depth. Never underestimate the power of your actions.
With one small gesture you can change a person's life. For better or for worse.
God puts us all in each others lives to impact one another in some way.
Look for God in others.
'Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.'
There is no beginning or end.. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift.
Too often we don't realizewhat we have until it is goneToo often we wait too late to say"I'm sorry... I was wrong."Sometimes it seems we hurt the oneswe hold dearest to our heartsAnd we allow foolish things to tearOur precious lives apartWe always hurt the one we loveThe one we shouldn't hurt at allWe always take the sweetest roseAnd crush it till the petals fallWe always break the kindest heartWith a hasty word we can't recallWe often forget to act with rightTo the one we love most of allToo often we listen to others wordPutting away trust to our belovedSuspicious and doubts then ariseAt last we have to pay the priceFar too many times we letUnimportant things into our mindsAnd then it's usually too lateTo see what made us blindSo be sure that you let people knowHow much they mean to youTake that time to say the wordsBefore your time is throughBe sure that you appreciateEverything you've gotAnd be thankful for the Little ThingsIn Life that mean a lot...
A primary school teacher asked her students to write an essay about what they would like God to do for them. At the end of the day, while marking the essays, one made her very emotional.
Her husband, who had just walked in, saw her crying and asked 'What Happened?'
The teacher read the essay that had touched her heart loudly to her husband:
'Dear God, today I would like to request something very special. Please turn me into a television set. I want to take its place. I want to have a very special place in my house and have my family around me.
I want to be taken seriously when I talk, to be the center of attention and be heard without interruptions or questions. I want to receive the same special care the TV gets when it is not working. I want to have the company of my dad when he comes home from work, even when he is tired.
And I want my mom to want me when she is sad or upset, instead of ignoring me. I want my brothers to fight to be with me. I want to feel the family leaving everything aside , every now and then, just to spend some time with me.
And last but not least, please make it that I can make them all happy and entertain them. Dear God, I don't want to ask you for much..I just want to live like a television set.'
The husband was horrified and said: 'Poor kid! What horrible parents!'
The teacher cried harder and said: 'That essay belongs to our son..'
Thank you, friend,for all the things that mean so much to meFor concern and understandingYou give abundantly.Thanks for listening with your heart;For cheering me when I'm blue;For bringing out the best in me;And just for being you.Thanks for in-depth conversationThat stimulates my brain;For silly times we laugh out loud;For things I can't explain.For looking past my flaws and faults;For all the time you spend;For all the kind things that you do,Thank you;thank you,friend.(By Joanna Fuchs)
Once you find what matters in your life
Keep on pushing through the darkness
Till you see the light
You're gonna find it
You're no longer behind it
Once you learn what you've been doin' wrong
You can make the change
You need to make to carry on
Now and forever
The sooner the better, just remember now . . .
It's a long way up
When you're coming from nowhere
It's a long way up
When you're coming from nowhere
You gotta fight a little harder
You gotta push a little more
You gotta gamble everything you got
To get you through the door
'Cause it's a long way up
You've been down before but that's okay
You can rest assured
That every dog will have his day
And life is a jungle
But you ain't gonna crumble, remember now . . .
It's a long way up
When you're coming from nowhere
It's a long way up
When you're coming from nowhere
You gotta fight a little harder
You gotta push a little more
You gotta gamble everything you got
To get you through the door
'Cause it's a long way up
Don't give up the dream
Hey don't you know it's dark before the dawn
When you think you just can't take it
That's when you'll make it
In the summer of 1984, a young sky diver's parachute failed to open fully. The young man fell and slammed into a dry lake at 60 miles per hour. He broke almost every bones in his body and the doctors thought that the young man could never leave the hospital bed ever. When they told him the bad news, the young man sank into a deep despair.
While lying in the bed, the young man got an unexpected visit from another patient, whose spinal cord has been severed in a bad automobile accident. The older man could never walk or life a finger again in his whole life. In spite of his condition, the older man was always cheerful.
'I certainly wouldn't recommend my condition to anyone else,' said the older man. 'I do not want anyone to pity me either. I am happy that I can still read and listen to beautiful music. I can also talk to people. There are others in much better condition than me but they do not enjoy their life.'
These words gave hope to the sky diver that he decided not to give up and quit. He focused not on what he has lost but more on what he could do with what he has left. He started thinking of what he could gain by not giving up. He concentrated on what he wanted to do and that ambition kept his attitude positive and gave him hope.
To the amazement of the doctors, in one year, the sky diver managed to walk again and without a trace of a limp.
We all have dreams for a reason. And if we decide exactly what we want in life and go after it as hard as we can, we would surely achieve our dreams. If you cannot decide, that is what makes you go around in circles.
